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Welcome to Following Sparks - where you wake up, break free, and take your damn life back.

I’m Mary, and I know exactly what it means to feel stuck—not just confused, but trapped. The kind of stuck that seeps into every piece of who you are.

For over 20 years, I lived in emotional and financial abuse.

Slowly, piece by piece, I lost myself—my voice, my instincts, my ability to even feel joy. The world told me to “just move on.”

But when all you have known is survival mode for so long AND you are penniless, jobless, and isolated, how the hell do you “just move on?” I’d think, “I need to figure this out” but survival mode would always take over and I’d lose days, weeks, months before even remembering that though.

Then one day, everything changed

I was walking my dog, drowning in survival mode and negative thoughts, when I realized:I had two choices.

1️⃣ Keep waking up every day just trying to survive—stuck in the cycle, exhausted, numb.

2️⃣ Make the decision to change, even if I had no idea what that looked like.Option one? Guaranteed suffering. A lifetime of waking up, feeling the same unbearable stuckness.

Option two? Terrifying. But at least it was something differnet, soI made a choice:

🔥 I would follow the sparks.Even if they were tiny, fleeting, barely visible. Even if they disappeared the second I noticed them. I would follow anything that made me feel even the slightest flicker of aliveness.

And that’s where this journey began.

what is following sparks?

This isn’t about some perfect, polished self-help formula. It’s about the real process of disrupting old patterns, questioning everything you were taught to believe, and rediscovering the parts of yourself that were buried for too long.

I share this journey in real-time. The forgetting. The resistance. The unexpected magic. The frustration of feeling stuck in the same patterns again. Because rewiring a survival-wired brain is not linear. But it is possible.

Who is Following Sparks for?

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve lost yourself—if you struggle to believe in more because your body and brain are wired for survival—this space is for you.

If you’ve tried and failed at “thinking positive” because your nervous system simply won’t let you—this space is for you.

If you want to learn how to disrupt old patterns, awaken your intuition, rediscover who you are, and ignite real change—this space is for you.

I am still deep in this process, and Following Sparks is where I document it. If you’d like to follow along, start here. And if you’re ready to begin your own journey, download The Spark Starter Kit here.

We are not lost. We were just trained to forget. Now, we remember. 🔥

To read more about my story and follow along, check out the blog series, My journey

Here, we disrupt. awaken. rediscover. ignite.

This space is for women who are waking up to the truth that their “stuckness” isn’t a flaw—it’s a result ofyears of conditioning, gaslighting, and societal expectations.

It’s for women who are done playing small, done doubting themselves, and ready to

break the hell out of Stuckville.