Have you ever noticed how so many of us women dive headfirst into our online businesses, only to find ourselves in a whirlwind of exhaustion, overwhelm, and self-doubt? My number one piece of advice to avoid all of that mess: be authentic.
Let’s talk about it. You see, from a young age, many of us were caught in a peculiar dance of trying to be “just enough” or “not too much” for the world around us. Yep, it’s that people-pleasing tendency that’s been ingrained in us since childhood. The one that often leads us down the path of molding ourselves to fit into the expectations of others.
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Now, as we step into the world of online business, the same old habits rear their heads. We chase trends, seek external validation, and soon enough, we’re left wondering why we’re so darn burnt out.
Picture this: You’re a go-getter, a dream-chaser, and you’re ready to dive into the world of online business. You’ve got the ideas, the passion, and the drive. But somehow, along the way, you start to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and disconnected from what you’re doing. Sound familiar? Well, you’re not alone.
Time To Unlearn “People-Pleasing”
This is a phenomenon that affects so many of us, especially heart-centered women, It’s the “people-pleasing” bug that seems to have bitten us all at some point in our lives. And guess what? It’s not your fault. Our childhoods often left us feeling like we were either “too much” or “not enough.” We grew up thinking we needed to mold ourselves into something acceptable to everyone else.
But guess what? There’s a different way to do this, a way that’s not about fitting into someone else’s mold or seeking approval. It’s about showing up as your authentic self and letting your online business reflect that beautifully unique essence.
In this post, we’re going to dive deep into this topic, explore why we tend to seek permission and validation, and discover how to break free from these shackles. So, if you’re ready to embrace your true self and thrive in your online business without constantly asking for permission, stick around. We’re about to embark on a journey to unlock your full potential and happiness. 🌟
The People-Pleasing Phenomenon aka How NOT to Be Authentic
Alright, let’s dig into this whole “people-pleasing” thing. We’ve all been there, right? Saying “yes” when we want to scream “no,” all in the name of well….. pleasing people.
So, what’s the deal? Well, it’s like an invisible force that’s more common among women than we might realize. From our early years, we’ve been wired to fit in, to be the “good girls,” and to avoid making waves. It’s almost like we had to navigate a tricky balancing act, where we were either “too much” or “not enough.” Does that hit home for you? Hits me like a giant brick.
Imagine this: You’re a kid with all these dreams, ideas, and quirks that make you beautifully unique. But society (and more likely- your family) tells you that you’re too loud, too opinionated, too shy, too weird, too anything. And what do you do? You learn to shrink yourself, to downplay your brilliance, and to mold yourself into a version that won’t rock the boat. Anyone else nodding their head a lot while reading this?
We grow up with this tendency to become experts at reading the room, anticipating what others want, and adjusting ourselves accordingly. It’s like we’ve been living on autopilot, constantly striving to be the pleasers, the peacekeepers, the ones who keep everything smooth sailing. And here’s the kicker: We often do it so well that we lose sight of who we truly are.
But hey, it’s not your fault! It’s a survival instinct that’s been ingrained in us. We’ve been trying to fit into boxes that were never meant for us in the first place. And guess what? It seeps into our adult lives, especially when we move into new territory, like starting our own online businesses.
The Online Business Dilemma
Alright, let’s shift our focus to online businesses. You’ve got this brilliant idea, you’re ready to conquer the digital realm, and you’re ready to be successful. But here’s the twist: that sneaky “people-pleasing” habit you’ve carried from childhood doesn’t just vanish when you open up shop online.
Picture this: You start your online venture with high hopes and enthusiasm. You’ve got your checklist of what a successful business should look like. You follow all the trends, you take advice from coaches and “experts,” you mimic what seems to work for others, and you put all of your time and effort into it.
But here’s the catch: Somewhere along the way, you start feeling drained, disconnected, and overwhelmed. You’re working tirelessly, burning the midnight oil, and yet it doesn’t feel quite right. It’s like you’re on a never-ending hamster wheel, and the passion that once fueled your business has turned into exhaustion.
Caught in a Life of Shoulds
Why does this happen? Well, it’s because you’re caught in a web of “shoulds.” You’re trying to fit into someone else’s mold of what a successful online business looks like. You’re constantly seeking validation from others, asking, “What do you think? Is this okay?” It’s almost like you’ve handed over the reins of your own business to external voices, leaving your true self in the shadows.
But here’s the real truth: The burnout you’re experiencing isn’t due to the hard work; it’s because you’re not deeply connected to what you’re doing. It’s like trying to dance to someone else’s tune when your heart is craving a different melody. You’ve been looking outside for validation and guidance, but the answers have been within you all along.
You’re not alone in this cycle of burnout and disconnection. So many amazing women, with incredible potential, find themselves in this exact spot.
But here’s the good news: You have the power to change the game. You can step off that hamster wheel, break free from the “shoulds,” and rediscover the joy and passion that brought you to this online business journey in the first place. It’s all about embracing your authenticity and realizing that you don’t need anyone else’s permission to shine in your unique way. 🌟🚀
Unlock Your Superpower: Be Authentic
Let’s talk about something truly magical: authenticity. It’s like the secret sauce that can transform your online business from a laborious chore into a fulfilling, light-your-soul-on-fire adventure.
Imagine this: You wake up one day and decide, “You know what? I’m done with trying to be someone I’m not.” You decide to embrace your quirks, your passions, your uniqueness, and you infuse them into your online business. Suddenly, something incredible happens. Your work starts to feel meaningful. Your energy soars. And guess what? Your audience notices too!
Authenticity is like a magnet that draws people in. When you show up as your true self, unapologetically, you attract those who resonate with your vibe, your message, and your mission. Your online business becomes a reflection of your passions, values, and dreams. It stops feeling like a chore, and it starts feeling like a labor of love. Suddenly, you lose track of time and can work for hours without ever feeling burnt out. Quite the opposite!
But it’s not just about attracting the right audience; it’s also about staying true to your path. When you’re authentic, you’re aligned with your purpose. You’re not chasing trends or trying to please everyone else. You’re doing what genuinely lights you up.
Be Authentic- Be Real
You see, authenticity isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real. Acknowledging your strengths and your vulnerabilities. It’s about sharing your journey, your challenges, and your triumphs with honesty and transparency. And that, my friends, is what builds trust and connection with your audience.
So, if you’re tired of feeling like you’re wearing a mask in your online business, if you’re yearning for more meaning and fulfillment, it’s time to embrace your authenticity. Your uniqueness is your superpower, and your online business journey can become a beautiful expression of who you are. Get ready to shine, my friends! 🌟💫
Overcoming the Need for Permission
You’ve made it this far, and now it’s time to roll up our sleeves and get practical. How can you break free from the never-ending cycle of seeking permission and start embracing your authenticity in your online business?
- Self-Reflection: Begin by taking a deep dive into yourself. Reflect on your values, passions, and what truly lights you up. What makes you unique? What’s your vision for your online business? The more you understand yourself, the easier it becomes to align your business with your authentic self.
- Banish the “Shoulds”: Recognize those sneaky “shoulds” that have been holding you back. Challenge them. Are they coming from your true self or external expectations? Replace “I should” with “I choose to” and watch how it changes your perspective.
- Trust Your Intuition: Start listening to that inner voice—the one that knows what’s right for you. When making decisions in your business, trust your gut. Your intuition is a powerful guide.
- Set Boundaries: It’s okay to say no. Setting boundaries is an act of self-care. Don’t overextend yourself to please others. Prioritize your well-being.
- Celebrate Imperfection: Perfection is overrated. Embrace your imperfections, because they make you beautifully human. Don’t let the fear of making mistakes hold you back from being your true self.
- Connect with Like-Minded Souls: Surround yourself with a supportive community that celebrates authenticity. Share your journey, learn from others, and draw inspiration from those who walk a similar path.
- Take Small Steps: Embracing authenticity is a journey. Start small, implement changes gradually, and celebrate your progress along the way.
Embrace Your Authenticty: Conclusion
Congratulations🎉 You’ve just embarked on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment and are ready to embrace your authenticity! We’ve explored the powerful phenomenon of “people-pleasing” and how it can seep into our online businesses, leaving us feeling burnt out and disconnected.
But here’s the good news: You have the choice to break free from the need for permission. You don’t need anyone else’s validation to shine as your authentic self in your online business. Authenticity is your superpower, and it can transform your venture from a chore into a light your soul on fire, labor of love!
So, let’s make a pact today. Let’s promise ourselves that we’ll stop seeking permission to be ourselves. We’ll embrace our quirks, our passions, and our uniqueness. We’ll infuse our online businesses with our authentic selves, knowing that it’s not only okay but also incredibly powerful.
As you continue your online business journey, remember that authenticity isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being YOU. The real you. It’s about showing up as you are, with all your strengths and vulnerabilities. Trust in your journey, trust in yourself, and trust that the world needs your unique voice.
Now, go out there and shine brilliantly! Your online business journey awaits, and it’s time to thrive as your beautifully authentic self. 🚀💫
Resources for Embracing Your Authenticty
Not to toot my own horn (TOOOOOOOT!!!!) but I have an ah-mazing workbook that takes you on a journey to dicover and FEEL your magic. Don’t you dare tell me that there is nothing special or magical about you because I am here to tell you that ordinary can be incredibly magical. That’s actually just workbook number one. Worrkbook two will then help you to uncover your unique voice and LOVE it! Then you mix all that yumminess up and bring them into the final workbook where you’ll know exactly who your ideal customer is and why they need you. Yes, YOU! They come as a set and I’ve even included PLR rights which means that after you find all your magic, you can rebrand the workbooks and sell them to help other women find their magic! Win-win-win!!!
I like to say that one of my superpowers is that I struggled to wade through all the sleaze and slime in the make money online world. This left me with eagle eye vision to spot and really know the safe places. Community is so important in this journey and these are some of the best I have found. If you have the money, pick one and make it your new online home. If you don’t have the money now, just breathe and know that the groups aren’t going anywhere and will be there for you when it’s your time.
Say Yes To Desire
Hoooo do I have so much love and respect for Michelle and Aimee at the Secret Owl Society. They are really the ones who gave me permimssion to not seek permission. Haha. They really opened my eyes to the idea of doing things based on MY joy. Say Yes To Deise is their newest program. If that is too much of an investment, another great place to start is Release and Reclaim. This may sound weird, but if money is really tight, try the Piece of Cake Podcast mini course. Even if you have no desire to start a podcast. Trust me. I started my journey with Michelle in her Planner Girl course and I have no desire to be a planner girl. But the course changed everything for me. The Podcast course is really about using your voice.
The Digital Hive Hub
This is my newest find. I call it my secret weapon. Two amazing, smart, spark chasing women have created a space geared more towards digital marketers and digital product creators. There are live meetings, group chat to share ideas and ask questions, a PLR library, and so much spot-on training all with the focus on creating a business that reflects YOU. The Hive is a monthly membership.
The Biz Academy
This is one I actually learned about from Michelle (from above) and I was like, woah! What? Leonie is like no one else that I have found online. She is 100% unapoagetically her. Whenever I start feeling like I’m doing something “too out there,” I just head to her page and am reassured that this is MY business and I can find success by flying as high as I want! Her Biz Academy has access to all of her classes which is a HUGE amount of courses for the money.
A Community for Heart-Centered Roamappers
Lasly, if you are just starting our with your online journey, I would love to encourage you to look into The Roadmap Course. When you purchase the course from me, you’ll be invited into an intimate community of women to suport your online journey and hold space for the personal growth side of it.